As I have mentioned before, every Monday and Wednesday afternoon I visit and "work" with an older woman, Mari Carmen. She lives about 10-15 minutes walking away from my residence, and the walk is just lovely. I pass over the main river of Granada (which has recently had much more water than usual from the rain in the Sierra Nevada) and walk past the convention/performing arts center. This emerald green building is starkly different than any other in Granada; 46 steps, which lead up to two sides of a tiled terrace and the center's entrance. To further illustrate, here is a picture (courtesy of Google).
Naturally, it is not quite as imposing as the picture depicts, but I must note that the overcast and bright sky is extremely accurate. Quite the norm around here as of late.
I arrive at Mari Carmen's apartment right around 5:15 pm, just in time to catch the name of her favorite telenovela (soap opera). I am always wary of interrupting her viewing time, as I know she loves this show and probably does not want to miss the last few moments of drama; I sit quietly (a little awkwardly, admittedly), and wait for the show to end before making conversation. She makes small attempts at conversation, but just typical questions about how my weekend was, etc. I can tell her attention is divided between me and the television, so I try to keep my responses brief. Suffice to say, the first fifteen minutes are always a bit on the uncomfortable side. Maybe I should switch my arrival time to 5:30.
After the telenovela (which is always fantastically over-dramatic) ends, I usually ask Mari Carmen about her sisters, grandchildren, and health. I do struggle with understanding her most of the time, as her accent is thick (generally, the people of southern Spain cut their words to an extreme). Slowly, my comprehension is improving, as she tends to not slow her speech or repeat things. If I do not understand after two tries, she moves on to other topics.
Mari Carmen does enjoy hearing about places I have explored or hope to visit in Spain. She particularly loves Madrid, for there is a multitude of fantastic museums there. One of her daughters lives in Madrid and is an English teacher. Yes, I have in fact spoken on the phone with this daughter -- Mari Carmen is very proud of her daughter's English abilities. She also just loves to make phone calls. Randomly, she will grab the phone to have sometimes extensive and sometimes extremely brief conversations. Sometimes, it is debatable whether or not the call's recipient got a word in before Mari Carmen hung up. All the while, the television remains on and blares either another telenovela or the Spanish version of "Maury."
Recently, Mari Carmen has expressed a desire to learn English. In a notebook that came with a pharmacy purchase (I think?), I write words in Spanish and their English equivalents. For now, we are just practicing how to say the words, as pronunciation of some English sounds is so difficult. Not too much time is spent practicing, though, as she becomes tired (or bored, possibly?).
Following English practice always comes coffee time. She shuffles into the kitchen while I watch the end of Spanish "Maury." Funny, yesterday's episode featured a woman telling the show's panel about her husband, who has been stealing money from the family's funds. The panel fueled the woman on, giving her reason after reason to be infuriated. One of the panel members, though, very randomly whipped out a container of yogurt and began to snack... during the show! Once or twice, too, I have seen the cast members blatantly texting during the episode. So interesting.
In any event, after a few minutes of closing cabinets and microwave beeps, Mari Carmen shuffles back into the living room, carrying a tray (always the same tray that has a picture of Calpe, Spain) with a teacup of coffee, bowl of sugar, napkin, and plate of cookies. For herself, she has just a glass cup of coffee. This coffee is some of the best I have had in Granada, as somehow she manages to hit the perfect proportion of coffee to milk. Brilliant. Over coffee, we watch whatever might be on t.v. at that point, and more phone calls are made.
Finally, to end our time, we watch a game show called "Ahora Caigo," or "Now I Fall." It's quite humorous, I must say, and both of us really enjoy watching and playing along. The host loves to sing, which I think Mari Carmen enjoys the most (I know when she is in a more joyful mood, as she will sing short bits of songs). The show operates as follows:
1. Contestant stands in the center of a stage
2. 10 "minor" contestants stand on platforms in a circle around the primary contestant
3. Contestant chooses an opponent, and the two take turns answering trivia questions (a few letters of the answer are provided)
4. If the contestant does not answer before the timer buzzes (no penalty for incorrect answers), strike one! Three strikes are provided.
5. If the minor contestant fails to answer, the platform on which they are standing opens and they fall downward into the great beyond.
6. With each minor contestant beaten, the primary contestant receives a surprise amount of money.
7. On to the next opponent!
Of course, Mari Carmen and I do not watch television every time I visit; rain has just taken over the city as of late. On nice days, we go on walks around the neighborhood and through a nearby park. Once, we stopped in the local library, as she was interested in the book-borrowing process. Every so often, too, she has plans to meet her sister in the city center, so she leaves with me and I walk her to the bus stop. We link arms as we walk in the customary Spanish fashion.
Some days are easier than others. I truly love my time with Mari Carmen, but I wish my language skills were better; I feel like I could contribute so much more to our time together if I could just speak and understand more Spanish. In due time. I have so enjoyed seeing her gradually warm up to me. She sings and smiles more. There are still those days of not-so-great moods, and I wonder if I am being a bother (would she prefer to be in bed resting?). Despite my doubts, I really do think she appreciates the company. One day last week, she found out that her son and granddaughter were not visiting the next day as planned. With a very pleading face, she asked me to visit in their place. Unfortunately, I could not oblige, as I had a complete day of class. Oh, but that face! I hope she was not too lonely.
In any event, since I have been so preoccupied with my less than satisfactory Spanish skills, I decided to find another means to connect with her. Very recently, Mari Carmen has showed me her knitting projects... and thus I have begun what is probably my fourth attempt at learning to knit. I picked up some yarn and needles yesterday, curled up in bed, and found some instructions online. So far, this attempt is wildly more successful (every other time, I just could never seem to get the hang of it; my projects were pretty pathetic). This time around, there is far more motivation and determination involved. I shall make a scarf yet! With Mari Carmen! Once I get into the groove of this knitting thing, I shall shove those extremely (and unnecessarily) long needles and golden-tan yarn in my purse to surprise my dear friend. Who knows, tomorrow could possibly be the day! Expect an update.